When I asked Princess Jones to be my guest co-host for the podcast for her third time, I expected it to be a fun episode. But when we ultimately decided to talk about dealing with fear and confidence issues, honestly I thought it would be much drier than our previous shows together.
Not so! Leave it to Princess to bring the fun. She had me laughing most of the way through this nearly hour-and-a-half show (shorter version available as well).
The most basic takeaway of this episode? If you ever face fear or a lack of confidence as a writer, know you're not alone No matter how experienced we become, every writer deals with these issues at some point or another. Princess and I share some of our own crazy fears, how we cope with them, and offer some tips on being (or faking) confidence to get ahead in your writing career.
My chat with Princess ran much longer than anticipated. As such, we decided to release a special extended cut with approximately 20 extra minutes of content. If you want the full experience, you can listen to that here. Or you can find the standard version that went out over the iTunes feed at the end of the show notes.
This was a long, casual, and lighthearted chat about the fear and confidence issues all writers (freelancers, authors, bloggers, etc. -- all of us) feel at some point or another. As such, I think it's best to just let you be a fly on the wall with minimal notes for this one. So here's a simple and quick breakdown of the kinds of things we talk about:
- The fear of rejection when querying or cold calling freelance prospects
- The fear of being judged (especially when writing fiction -- for us, specifically when writing horror and comedy)
- Social anxiety in a cold calling environment
- Perfectionism and feeling like you, or your writing, will never be good enough (especially as an author)
- Feeling like you don't have anything special to offer clients
- Body image issues affecting confidence when dealing with video chats, in-person client visits, and networking
- The importance of "using what you've got" to land deals as a writer
- The "fake it 'til you make it" concept and how it applies to confidence
- Whether or not it's OK to tell little white lies (a running theme in the show)
Disclaimer: It's the official All Freelance Writing position that you should not lie in the pursuit of freelance clients. At all. No matter what Princess says. She's crazy.
The Infamous Yolander Prinzel Puppet
Below you'll find a picture of Princess' "Yolander Prinzel puppet" discussed in the episode, along with an explanation from Princess. Thank you to Princess for her sheer craziness in creating this thing, and to Yo for agreeing to let me share it here.
"I made this little puppet because I often go to Yo to ask questions I already know the answers to. Like "Should I give up my freelance career to work on fiction because I like it more?" Or "Can I call myself a 'bestseller' in my book copy because I was on the Amazon bestseller list for like 10 minutes?" And Yo i generally very blunt with me and says "No" to all of my crazy ideas.When I realized I was asking questions I already knew the answer to, I figured I'd cut out the middleman and make myself a little totem that I can talk to instead of bothering her. I pretty much take it everywhere I go. In my home office, on-site to meet with a client, on vacation, etc, etc.As for the picture, Yo tends to send me aggressive orders to be nice to myself or to eat well or to believe in myself. I have an Android watch so when she sends me messages, they appear on my watch with her face behind them in a very Wizard of Oz fashion.When I told her this, she sent me a message that said "Poop." I took a screenshot of the picture and she used it as her avatar for a while. And that's the picture I chose when I made my Yo puppet."
Related Links for This Episode
- Princess Jones' Website
- Yolander Prinzel's Website
- Yolander Prinzel's Posts at All Freelance Writing
- Peter Bowerman's Blog
- Peter Bowerman's Book
- KeriLynn Engel's Website
- Clint Osterholz's Posts at All Freelance Writing
- 4 Tips for Dealing With Client Call Anxiety as a Freelancer
- How I Prevented a Chronic Health Condition From Ruining My Writing Career
- Your USP: Stand Out From the Freelance Writing Crowd